[FONT=宋体]我在家园潜水已经有几年了，还没怎么发过言，今天真是碰到难定夺的事了，想听听大家意见，等我将来到了温哥华，也一定把经验贴上来回报大家，先谢谢大家了！[/FONT]

[FONT=宋体]先介绍一下我们的情况：我和老公两个人[/FONT]2006[FONT=宋体]年十月短登温哥华，老公是[/FONT]IT[FONT=宋体]行业今年[/FONT]35[FONT=宋体]岁英语四级水平，我在事业单位工作今年[/FONT]30[FONT=宋体]岁英语一般，当过几年小学英语老师，听说稍好过老公。当初因为公公病危、我又怀孕，所以一直没下决心长登。如今孩子一岁，一切基本稳定，长登被提上日程，可孩子怎么办，我真是发愁啊！我们现在有三个方案，请有孩子的朋友帮忙出出注意，哪个方案更合理啊？[/FONT]

[FONT=宋体]方案一：四月份我们三个一起走，可以给孩子先办探亲，到了之后再办团聚，老公的二姐在温哥华蹲移民监，我们先去投奔她，然后再租房子，我跟老老公两个人换着看孩子，半天打工，或者半天上学，现在孩子一岁，等孩子手续办下来再排队上[/FONT]daycare[FONT=宋体]，但是，不知道一岁半左右上[/FONT]daycare[FONT=宋体]容易不容易啊？如果收钱，我们还要租房子，钱带的真是不多，只有两万加币，就算上也支持不了多长时间。而且孩子的预防针也是问题，也请过来人帮忙介绍一下情况。这样带孩子过去，生活想来一定很艰难，所以又想，带孩子是不是不太理智的决定啊？可如果不带孩子，我真是舍不得，一想到要跟儿子分开就想掉眼泪，所以我现在正在犹豫这个事。[/FONT]

[FONT=宋体]方案二：四月份老公先去，办儿子的团聚，听说大概[/FONT]5[FONT=宋体]个月左右能办下来，十月份之前，我带孩子一起去。但问题是，我[/FONT]2006[FONT=宋体]年[/FONT]10[FONT=宋体]月短登的，如果想申请国籍，之后的三年都不能回来探亲了，这在我是不可能的，我所有的亲人朋友全在北京，我不可能一走三年。这个方案如果实施，我也就只能放弃入籍，可想想实在可惜，如果两年之后不回国了还好说，如果想回来，是不是还是混个身份又保障一点，万一将来孩子去念书也可以来去自由不受时间制约。这个方案也还是牵扯到孩子入托问题，十月份孩子一岁半，能有免费的托儿所上吗？如果没有我们一样还是负担很重，一个人打工养三个人，根本也不能念书，除非找到专业工作，可据说很难啊。[/FONT]

[FONT=宋体]方案三：我跟老公一起去，孩子留给姥姥姥爷看，留下一年，趁着孩子还不太有记忆，分开一年，等两岁多再带到身边，这样应该够上幼儿园的年龄了。孩子在姥姥家应该会收到非常好的照顾，姥姥姥爷退休在家年龄不太大，都是[/FONT]60[FONT=宋体]岁，我哥哥嫂子一起住，嫂子是幼儿园老师，他们都非常欢迎儿子留下，帮我度过难关，还有我表妹也在我妈那住，她也愿意帮忙。儿子在姥姥家是这辈儿里的第一个孩子，可以说是集万千宠爱于一身，而且，他大姑小姑周末也会带奶奶去姥姥家看他，这么多人，要说放心，我应该是放心的，只是考虑孩子会不会因为这一年跟我的感情淡漠了啊，还有，周围人再关心他，是不是妈妈的爱才是他最需要的啊？不带孩子的话，我跟老公可以打工或者上学，两个人都能腾出来做事，一年后接儿子到身边，这样计划现实吗？[/FONT]

[FONT=宋体]我老公的意见是第三个方案，他说这是最理智的选择，我是舍不得孩子，您觉得呢？请各位有相似经验的朋友建议一下吧，谢谢大家啦，[/FONT]

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快乐旅途 说:

我是单亲妈妈，孩子和你的孩子差不多大，我比你更头疼这个问题。

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那你打算怎么办啊？

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let your husband come here first, Don't come to Vancouver, go to Toronto directly, find some good CO-OP to study (like Missisauga 870), it need about 5 months, the try to find a IT job in Qct or Nov(the best season for job hunting). IT sistuation is very good now. then you and your kid can come here.

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zd2006 说:

let your husband come here first, Don't come to Vancouver, go to Toronto directly, find some good CO-OP to study (like Missisauga 870), it need about 5 months, the try to find a IT job in Qct or Nov(the best season for job hunting). IT sistuation is very good now. then you and your kid can come here.

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Thanks a lot. my husband's sister lives in Vancouver, this is why we want go there. If IT sistuation is very good in Toronto as you said, we'll think about it seriously, thank you very much for you advice.

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Thanks a lot. my husband's sister lives in Vancouver, this is why we want go there. If IT sistuation is very good in Toronto as you said, we'll think about it seriously, thank you very much for you advice.

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The IT training is great in Toronto (like victoria college, new concept). more co-op opportunities in Toronto too.in vancouver, it's almost nothing. IT situation is very good now, I think it will last several years. but it's not like 1999-2001. the company still need some true IT skill , English and desire some local expriences. training and co-op will give them to newcomers.

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wallyk 说:

Thanks a lot. my husband's sister lives in Vancouver, this is why we want go there. If IT sistuation is very good in Toronto as you said, we'll think about it seriously, thank you very much for you advice.

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Another thing, what is the concrete job of your husband ? developer, DBA or net administrator ...?

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wallyk 说:

Thanks a lot. my husband's sister lives in Vancouver, this is why we want go there. If IT sistuation is very good in Toronto as you said, we'll think about it seriously, thank you very much for you advice.

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看了你的帖子，看不出你到底想要什么？手段方式不重要，重要的是目的。你得明白你想要的是什么，才能知道该怎么走。和孩子分开一年半载的没什么，只要能换来长久的好处就行，否则就是痛上加痛。譬如说一定要在加拿大找回IT，那恐怕就要有来读书的需要，就得要有能撑两年的家底，不然就必须要有一人打工来维持。又譬如说一定要回流，那就要计划好坐移民监的生活安排和回流的准备。

归根到底，一定要知道自己的长远目标才行。

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jgcl 说:

看了你的帖子，看不出你到底想要什么？手段方式不重要，重要的是目的。你得明白你想要的是什么，才能知道该怎么走。和孩子分开一年半载的没什么，只要能换来长久的好处就行，否则就是痛上加痛。譬如说一定要在加拿大找回IT，那恐怕就要有来读书的需要，就得要有能撑两年的家底，不然就必须要有一人打工来维持。又譬如说一定要回流，那就要计划好坐移民监的生活安排和回流的准备。

归根到底，一定要知道自己的长远目标才行。

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Don't mislead LZ, Studying for a IT degree in Canada is stupid for a immigrant with IT backgroud, especially in present time. short training, CO-OP are enough.

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zd2006 说:

Another thing, what is the concrete job of your husband ? developer, DBA or net administrator ...?

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He has been a network engineer for seveal years,then do something about system integration , but now he work as a manager, don't do concrete technique work. That's a problem.
Both of us think maybe it's difficult for him to find a Professional
job.

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wallyk 说:

He has been a network engineer for seveal years,then do something about system integration , but now he work as a manager, don't do concrete technique work. That's a problem.
Both of us think maybe it's difficult for him to find a Professional
job.

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Thinking about delaying landing time, you still have one year time.in the one year,your husband need to study programming again (.net ) in China,then go to toronto this time next year himself, if he follow the good way,mostly he will find a programmer job in the fall of next year. at that time, you and your son can go here. (because your PR card is still before expire date,mostly no problem).

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快乐旅途 说:

我在国内做管理的，可以放小孩在家里我先过来找工作，zd2006有什么可以给到我的建议吗？我如何曲线救国，最终找到我想要的专业工作？改行也行，只要容易上手。本科是化工，都还给老师了，硕士学的是管理。

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pls check courses of Victoria college and new concept in toronto, according to your english ablity,find a good direction.

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zd2006 说:

Thinking about delaying landing time, you still have one year time.in the one year,your husband need to study programming again (.net ) in China,then go to toronto this time next year himself, if he follow the good way,mostly he will find a programmer job in the fall of next year. at that time, you and your son can go here. (because your PR card is still before expire date,mostly no problem).

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Thank you very much.We'll think about it.

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我们合伙去开个幼儿园得了。

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以你们的条件,三是最合适的.无奈下的最明智.

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I think the third method is the best choice. as a beginner ,you'll face to a lot of diffculties...