Don't know how to do you think your family's relationship? We only have small debates occasionally, but not face big challenges till this time, don't know if our relationship is firm or not. Maybe loose, but did not appear this weakness in the past days.
if you want a plan, it can be planned when you're ready. my co-worker's mom is going to have her 13th child, and she is older than you. that's not a problem. the problem is you should ajust your atitude. you won't lose anything if you have another baby and you love him(her). but if you feel you just have another baby 'for him', then you feel you lose everything. my son is 18 months and when I found out I was pregnant, I didn't have a job and my hubby's wage was $11.5/h. it seemed not a prefect time to have a baby. it wasn't in our plan, but life's getting better. my son means everything for me now. I'm glad I kept him even he wasn't in the plan.
if you want a plan, it can be planned when you're ready. my co-worker's mom is going to have her 13th child, and she is older than you. that's not a problem. the problem is you should ajust your atitude. you won't lose anything if you have another baby and you love him(her). but if you feel you just have another baby 'for him', then you feel you lose everything. my son is 18 months and when I found out I was pregnant, I didn't have a job and my hubby's wage was $11.5/h. it seemed not a prefect time to have a baby. it wasn't in our plan, but life's getting better. my son means everything for me now. I'm glad I kept him even he wasn't in the plan.