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A letter to the Immigration Office of Canada
Dear Sir or Madam:
I wish this letter could let you understand the whole love story between my husband and I. I am writing with all my heart. Every single word comes from my soul.
At eighteen when I was just a freshman, I met my ex-husband and soon fell in love with him. That was my first love. After dating for eight years, we got married. However, a hundred days after my daughter’s birthday, he went to Japan for further education. Two years later, he decided to be with another women there. This is definitely a catastrophe for me. I have even thought about suicide. Watching my daughter’s lovely smile, I cannot take that step. I cannot stand such humiliation and decided to divorce with my ex-husband. At that time, my daughter was merely three years old. As a single parent, I worked very hard to guarantee my daughter a happy childhood. Every single day seems to last forever. To be even worse, a year after my divorce, my mother was diagnosed with cancer. Besides the physical tiresome from taking care of both my daughter and my mother, I have suffered deeply psychologically. That was the first time ever in my life that I have experienced my smallness and helplessness in such a huge world. My mother passed away quite soon. I can never wipe away from my mind her last look on me. That was her unspeakable wish that I could finally find someone to share the rest of my life with. But it was not as easy for someone like me, who was torn by everyday errands and that incurable wound from marriage. Time flies. My daughter turns fourteen and I own a nice restaurant. Life gets better. One day, my daughter talked to me seriously, mom, I have grown up and please do not live your life merely for me. You should have your own life and find a nice man to love you too. For so many years, I have been longing for a father and a sweet family. My eyes welled at her words. How did not I wish so. How much did I long for a broad shoulder to lean to? But where should I find this man? Thanks to my daughter’s encouragement, I went to AsiaFriendFinder.com to find a boyfriend, which I wish to be a Chinese working and living in Beijing. But God brings Ron to me.
Meeting
April 27th, 2008, I got e-mail from a Canadian man named Ron. In the attachment, there were also several pictures. He introduced himself briefly and politely and stated that he would be very glad to know me. Since I planned to find someone living in Beijing, I simply replied with politeness. However, he did not give up writing to me. Until May 11th, his kindness finally persuaded me and I started our long-distance email talk.
May 19th, we heard each other on the phone for the first time. Suddenly, it appeared to be real. His voice is nice and gentle. Then we decided to meet via camera on the Internet. I will never forget May the 21st, when we finally meet on the Internet. My daughter saw him at the same time and she told me she found him very nice as well. Since then, we would talk twice on the Internet. In order to talk to Ron, I would get up at five o’clock in the morning. After our talk, I came to know him gradually. Although in the fifties, he looks ten years younger thanks to his exercises routine and diet habit. He married once and has a son. My friends became to know about my new love. Especially Shawna, she even turned the interpreter between us. The best wishes and encouragement from my friend help me to be more confident. Through the camera, Ron came to know my friends and they became friends very soon.
At that time, my English was not as great. After graduating from college, I barely used English. To talk to him, I have to have dictionaries at hand all the time. Thus, I did not give too much confidence to this relationship. But his gentleness, kindness and politeness told me not to give up. He was always patient, trying to guess what I was saying. Because some business reason, I was not in a good mood those days. Then he would play guitar and sing for me endlessly until I went back to a peaceful mood. Although we have not yet seen each other in person, our love was growing day by day at an unbelievable speed. June 6th, he was going to camp for a week, which means we could not talk for a week. Such a whole week of silence reminds me how much I love him and how much I cannot live without him. That was the taste of first love: missing, sentimentality, bitter and sweet. On my birthday, I received a giant bouquet of roses. I cannot believe Ron ordered it via a Chinese express company for me! at that moment, I was wordless. I believe God sends him to me! God heard my pray! As Ron and I have the same belief, I am sure God would bless us. Since then on, my heart belongs to this Canadian man. My life has changed because of life. I start smiling more.
I guess the hurt from my first marriage was too much. Therefore, during that period, I kept doubting about our love. I was not sure if two souls from different cultural backgrounds could be together. The more I love him, the more I worried. I was so afraid to be hurt again. I kept telling him about my constant worries. I knew it was for how much I care about him. But he was always there, trusting our love would last. And I was once again moved by his determination.
Gradually, talk on the Internet could no longer satisfy our missing for each other. We were looking forward to meeting each other face to face. He started planning for the itinerary to come over to Beijing. Although he has to take care of his mother and his job, he cannot visit me very soon. Finally, July 22nd, he told me that he booked the ticket on August 8th, the opening date of Beijing Olympics. It was a joyful day for the whole China. It was even more joyful for us. I got to meet my Ron at all the endless missing. But meanwhile, I was quite upset. I could not picture how it would be when we meet in reality. I even bought a pile of cooking books in fear that he might not be used to Chinese cuisine. I started practicing English by watching western movies, soap operas. I started preparing the food he loves: a variety of beans, coffee, his favorite Shiraz wine, coffee machine. Every time I walked into men’s store, I could not help buying several outfits for Ron. I was fully prepared for that day’s coming.
Getting to Know Each Other More
As the counting back of the Olympics, Ron was coming soon. That day, my friend Shawna was with me too. First, I was still worry about my English; second, since they have met each other vie camera, they have also known each other. I brought with me a bouquet of roses, driving to the airport with very complicated feelings. I saw him walking to me eventually! He seems taller than I have imagined. As him approaching, my heart beats even quicker. He came in front of me, held my hands and hugged me. My goodness, I could not even speak any English words. Thanks to my friend, it was not too embarrassing. On the way home, we started talking about the weather and the coming Olympics. We arrived at my house finally. He looked into my eyes, full of emotion, telling me that I was the one he was looking for to share the rest of the life with, that God brings us together.
The days passed with happiness and sweetness. We went to several events together including the soccer match and gymnastics. Every morning I would make his favorite coffee and fruit juice with protein powder. ( he was quite strict with the diet. Besides chicken, he would not eat any meat. And he would consume only whole grain bread and sugar free low fat yogurt. For cooking, only very little salt and oil are permitted. For rice, he only eats brown rice.) Since he has the hobby to work out everyday, the next day, we bought an membership in a gym. Everyday after breakfast, we would go to the gym. (even till now, I am still forced by him to exercise) There is a little café close to my house; we went there every afternoon to talk about our past. I told him about my family, my lovely childhood stories my blue days. Then he told me about his working experience of two years in Jordan and Malaysia. He corrected my English very patiently. This café called Auntie Jane’s witnessed our wonderful time together. Until today, we still pick it to kill our afternoon. Its owner also became our friend. During this summer, I showed him to a lot of places of attraction, such as the Summer Palace, Forbidden City, Tian’anmen Square, etc. We have visited my best friends. On Sundays, we went to church. He does not like going to restaurants for dinner in concern of hygiene. However, he enjoys a lot my cooking, especially the tomato soup hot pot at my restaurant. And that encourages me to try to cook a variety of cuisines. After a week of being together, we are determined that we could share our life and walk the rest of life hand in hand. Soon I took him back to my hometown YanTai, ShanDong. After that my mother passed away, I took my elder sister for my mother’s role. Since that my father does not agree with me dating a westerner, I went to visit her first to show Ron to her, meanwhile to took back my daughter.( I was concerned if my daughter would be uncomfortable with Ron living with us, I sent her to my elder sister’s house.) I showed him to my elder sister, brother-in-law, and younger brother. Quite out of my expectation, they enjoyed having this Canadian at home. For that my elder sister is a English teacher, her son just finished graduate school, talking in English was much easier than I have imagined. She talked with Ron for very long and she even told him about my stories in my childhood.
We have stayed at my elder sister’s for three days. All of her family like him and support my choice. Like every couple falling in love, we started to picture our future. To be even better, my daughter and him became very close friends. My daughter got happier and happier each day. Ron filled in the gap of a father that I owed my daughter for fourteen years. When we went out, she would hold his hand all the time. He, as a father, gave her the sense of security. Since the first day my daughter met her, the happiest smile never faded from her face, which makes me happy and deeply moved.
Unfortunately, as a matter of the visa, Ron could only stay for one month. There is nothing worse for a couple crazily in love to part. After a month, we were more than sure that we should be together forever. Ron was quite troubled. We were looking for a solution every day. At the end, he decided to reapply for a visa in Thailand on September 5th 2008. So that after four days apart, he came back to me and we enjoyed another month together. But we understand this is not a perfect solution. Traveling visa means that he has to go back to his country after all. The sorrow to separate was torturing us. In order to be with me, Ron decided to give up everything in Canada and apply for a job as an English professor. He was soon offered that position. So that he went back to Canada to finish the details and wait for a working visa in China. On September 25th, I saw him off at the airport. I could no longer control my running tears… I could do nothing. We were apart temporarily, but after these two months, we were much closer than ever before.
In Love
September 30th, he arrived in Canada and we started again our date on the Internet. On November 8th, I saw his mother and family via camera. Both his mother and sister like me a lot and I fell in love with them suddenly too. After five years without mother, I discovered that feelings again. Deep down in my heart, I was so grateful for the love that God bestowed me. November 11th is her mother’s eighty years birthday. That day, I was quite upset since that she would have a little operation on the leg and that her son chose to give up everything in Canada and stay with me in Beijing. How could I deprive her son? I still felt guilty though I bought his mother and sister pretty outfits and send to them. After a long month of waiting, Ron came back to me on November 27th and this time he has with him a working visa to stay in China. I understand how much pressure he felt to deal with so many things in such a short period. But I also know that we will work very hard to cherish our love and award it with a happy ending.
Three days after his arrival, he started to teach daily at ABC English School. I found increasingly that Ron is such a responsible man. He prepares his lectures very seriously; he even bought little gifts himself for his students. In addition, he is very nice to my daughter. Everyday before going to work and after coming back, the first thing he does is to give us a BIG hug. The more time I spend with him, the more certain I become. Because of my first marriage’s unsuccessful experience, I am very concerned about taking the final step. Six months fly. Before Christmas, Ron and I decided to visit Xi’an, where I have worked ten years ago. Ron booked a five star hotel Sofite there. We have stayed there for two days and visited my classmates. On the Christmas Eve, he proposed to me. Since then, we started planning for our wedding and honeymoon.
Given that all my relatives live in another city far away from Beijing, my father remarried and I have only one sister and one brother, I think a wedding is something superficial. The most important is the couple sincerely loves each other. A giant wedding is not as important for us who have experienced an unsuccessful marriage. It is crucial that we learn how to cherish our love in the future and thus I persuaded him to give up the wedding ceremony.
At the traditional Chinese festival, the Spring Festival, we went to Thailand for our honeymoon. He booked a five star hotel. We bathed in the sun on the beach, watching the sunrise and enjoying the sweetness of life. In Thailand, I met Ron’s elder brother too. We had dinner and spent a wonderful time together.
Together Forever
During the ten months of dating, since June 2008, my restaurant’s landowner disobeyed our contract and caused a lot of trouble, which strongly affected my business. Facing such economic pressure, I am full of dilemma. To be with me, Ron gave up everything; but for me, I cannot offer him anything. If I went back to the struggling life as before, I might even affect him. I believe loving is giving. It should be to give the one happiness not suffering. Should I still be in this relationship? After several evening’s consideration, I decided to give up this relationship. On October 27th, I told him about my decision via the camera. He strongly disagreed with me. In his email on November 1st, he recounted the whole process since we first knew each other and told me no matter what happens he would never give up our love. He would never leave me alone to face any struggles… At reading that letter, I found the love that I have never felt before. Love gives me the confidence I never own to face the challenges. November 27th, Ron came to Beijing. Though our days passed so peacefully and happily, my restaurant was getting worse. I have invested three millions RMB in my restaurant in total. The only thing I can do is to sue my landowner. But the Chinese law system is not so well designed. The landowner found every possible way to bother me. Every time I felt hopeless, Ron used his broad shoulders and sweet kisses gives me the biggest support. On March 5th, Ron and I flied to my hometown Xi’an and received our federal marriage certificate. I understand getting married at this time is because Ron wishes to make me feel the most security. The moment Ron put the diamond ring on my finger, I was so grateful for what God brings me. facing the challenges, our love stands and lasts. I believe our story will always be “together forever”.
