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I was told my ex-girlfriend had got married

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Don : 2007-01-03#1
this news came to me this noon, wow, don't know what else to say.

we were together for 4 years, since her 19-year old time and broke up a year later after she went to vancouver, where she met her husband.

any relationship this long must have left lots of things, good or bad, happy or unhappy. actually, sometimes I wondered how things would be going on and what the end would be when I was still in the relationship, and obviously I had figured out and had known everything.

although I havn't thought about her for a long time, and of course I have known she would get married with one of some other guys I don't know someday, this news doesn't make me feel good though.

well, speachless now. everything that has a beginning has an end, somebody say.

carl_sun : 2007-01-03#2
Don't be sad. Be happy for yourself.

传说中的鸟人 : 2007-01-03#3
除了祝福,也没啥好说的了。
当初我也是不相信异地恋情的,所以前女友要回香港找工作,我就选择分手了。谁知道我现在的媳妇确是3年多网恋得来的,缘分的东西真的很难说。

Diamondmm : 2007-01-03#4
我也觉得说不清。我当初毅然决然嫁给现在的老公,没想到2年多过去,就面对着离婚纸,还有诉讼。
想起心里最喜欢的人,他过得好不好。。。
结果,他告诉我,他车祸,下半身瘫痪了。。。
我也不知道该说什么。。。除了去看看他,已经什么都做不了了。。。
有时候,人真得很无力。面对一些事情,根本没有余地。

crystal_clear : 2007-01-03#5
为她祝福吧~

kind16 : 2007-01-04#6
也好,解脱了,可以找另外的女孩了

Michelle Libra : 2007-01-04#7
已经过去的事, 就不要回头看了.

爱还是不爱,其实都不是问题. 珍惜现在拥有的, 好好追求可以拥有的, 保护好愿意被你所拥有的一切,自会有福.

生活总是会送给你意外惊喜的, 我们就等着猜DON的下一颗巧克力是什么内容的好了, 呵呵.

Michelle Libra : 2007-01-04#8
我也觉得说不清。我当初毅然决然嫁给现在的老公,没想到2年多过去,就面对着离婚纸,还有诉讼。
想起心里最喜欢的人,他过得好不好。。。
结果,他告诉我,他车祸,下半身瘫痪了。。。
我也不知道该说什么。。。除了去看看他,已经什么都做不了了。。。
有时候,人真得很无力。面对一些事情,根本没有余地。

往事如烟, 往事如风
往事如梦, 往事如虹
就让一切都随风

Michelle Libra : 2007-01-04#9
情若是花开花谢, 爱终究沧海桑田
谁又懂怎样爱, 才是真永远

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vivienne98 : 2007-01-04#10
小弟老了,开始酡酡了

俸禄xz : 2007-01-05#11
安慰一下Don!

sunnyway : 2007-01-05#12
miss her? or miss yourself in those days?

who knows what would have happened if I went back to my 25 years old...but how?!

enjoy the days I still have, love the guys who I do care - on which i still can do something and make myself happy, that's enough.

benkok : 2007-01-05#13
哎~我也为这“情”字而烦恼。今天我去了趟酒吧,那边的朋友说ben...三年前你来上海是黑发,现在2/3是白发。。。哎。。自己知道除了工作压力,这情字的压力是最大的~~

ai~~Don...may God bless you

传说中的鸟人 : 2007-01-05#14
哎~我也为这“情”字而烦恼。今天我去了趟酒吧,那边的朋友说ben...三年前你来上海是黑发,现在2/3是白发。。。哎。。自己知道除了工作压力,这情字的压力是最大的~~

ai~~Don...may God bless you
那年,杨过也是为了这个字,两边有白头发垂下来,很是酷。

Thumbelina : 2007-01-07#15
Lz不是发贴结婚啦吗?confused....

Beijing2008 : 2007-01-07#16
this news came to me this noon, wow, don't know what else to say.

we were together for 4 years, since her 19-year old time and broke up a year later after she went to vancouver, where she met her husband.

.

Don't be too sad. It is a completely different thing that you had been living together with her for 4 years or just had been getting along with her for 4 years.

That's a kind of "缘".

palmer : 2007-01-07#17
好事情啊 终于可以死心了
而且你用的ex 前缀 也说明这个问题
不过和我的经历有点。。。。。
也是4年。。。

Diamondmm : 2007-01-08#18
don,你也要结婚了?!
恭喜恭喜。。。

Don : 2007-01-08#19
oops, days ago I have replied you guys, but seems my reply was disappear with unknown reasons.

Don't be sad. Be happy for yourself.
thanks, that's what I am trying to do.

除了祝福,也没啥好说的了。
当初我也是不相信异地恋情的,所以前女友要回香港找工作,我就选择分手了。谁知道我现在的媳妇确是3年多网恋得来的,缘分的东西真的很难说。
lucky you, birdman. I don't believe in distance love either, so I think you have missed a good chance to win lottery, but you won the love for the rest of your whole life! happy for you.

我也觉得说不清。我当初毅然决然嫁给现在的老公,没想到2年多过去,就面对着离婚纸,还有诉讼。
想起心里最喜欢的人,他过得好不好。。。
结果,他告诉我,他车祸,下半身瘫痪了。。。
我也不知道该说什么。。。除了去看看他,已经什么都做不了了。。。
有时候,人真得很无力。面对一些事情,根本没有余地。
sorry to hear that. sometimes we don't know what the destiny of our life would be, and we found lots of pity when we look back. whatever, you are still young, and now you have already had the treasure in your life - you son, right? be a good mother, love him, feed him and never leave him.

为她祝福吧~
crystal, well, it's easy to say but hard to do. we made good wishes at the final hug, but I still can't accept she's got married with a guy although I know it gonna happen someday, maybe it would feel better if she told me by her own, instead of being told by others 3 months after the affair. well, I know all those things have gone with the wind, and those left will be hidden somewhere until someday. sorry, I still can't do what you said.

也好,解脱了,可以找另外的女孩了
yeah, it's true, but that's not the point, anyway, thank you still.

已经过去的事, 就不要回头看了.

爱还是不爱,其实都不是问题. 珍惜现在拥有的, 好好追求可以拥有的, 保护好愿意被你所拥有的一切,自会有福.

生活总是会送给你意外惊喜的, 我们就等着猜DON的下一颗巧克力是什么内容的好了, 呵呵.
thanks. all I need is time, you know, time healths everything. you are right, everything is nothing when the judgment day comes at the end of our lives, and yeah, life is like a box of chocolate and you never know what the next tastes. I know I will be looking and moving ahead, but just not this moment.

小弟老了,开始酡酡了
haha, finally you say something extremely correct. yeah, I do find myself getting older than before. but the thing drove me mad was a colleague told her little daughter to call me BIG BROTHER rather than UNCLE because I wore the ring on the third finger! that's definitely a kinda discrimination to singles!!

安慰一下Don!
thanks, man, you are a good person.

miss her? or miss yourself in those days?

who knows what would have happened if I went back to my 25 years old...but how?!

enjoy the days I still have, love the guys who I do care - on which i still can do something and make myself happy, that's enough.
well, I prefer missing those days and happy time we had before, if I have to say.

哎~我也为这“情”字而烦恼。今天我去了趟酒吧,那边的朋友说ben...三年前你来上海是黑发,现在2/3是白发。。。哎。。自己知道除了工作压力,这情字的压力是最大的~~

ai~~Don...may God bless you
may god be with you too, ben. well, girls or ladies always have billions of mental or sense things to say, you know, people are gonna freak out when men just do a little bit things like women do. and moreover, wish you good luck.

Lz不是发贴结婚啦吗?confused....
faint, that's why I really want to kill gangnet, the guy who made such a big joke on me, and it was not funny at all!

Don't be too sad. It is a completely different thing that you had been living together with her for 4 years or just had been getting along with her for 4 years.

That's a kind of "缘".
oops, maybe you are right, anyway, thank you good man.

好事情啊 终于可以死心了
而且你用的ex 前缀 也说明这个问题
不过和我的经历有点。。。。。
也是4年。。。
well, I had already known there might be no future at the beginning, so she did know I was just one of the stops, not the final in her life. and I did know she truly, fully loved me in her own way, and I was in my own way too. maybe lovers who knows the end of the story could really pay all they could to love each other and to cherish the every single minute?

don,你也要结婚了?!
恭喜恭喜。。。
diamondmm, plz help to kill gangnet when you see him!

eli8 : 2007-01-08#20
既然已经结束了,她的嫁人就应该放的下了,因为总有她成为你的 ex 的理由,所以当初才会结束。move on !

Diamondmm : 2007-01-08#21
next~

Michelle Libra : 2007-01-09#22
.....

青天碧海 : 2007-01-10#23
土豆被人挖走了,只好下田里找找有没有玉米了。。。:wdb3:

vivienne98 : 2007-01-10#24
既然已经结束了,她的嫁人就应该放的下了,因为总有她成为你的 ex 的理由,所以当初才会结束。move on !
哈哈哈,小蛋在心里抱着的不是“她”,是“他”----蛋自己的感觉而已:wdb21:

传说中的鸟人 : 2007-01-10#25
土豆被人挖走了,只好下田里找找有没有玉米了。。。:wdb3:
惨,现在连棒子也给熊瞎子掰光了。

vivienne98 : 2007-01-10#26
惨,现在连棒子也给熊瞎子掰光了。
你不是揣着一个了么:wdb16:

传说中的鸟人 : 2007-01-10#27
你不是揣着一个了么:wdb16:
晴天家里也有,我这是为其他没掰着棒子的弟兄喊的。

Michelle Libra : 2007-01-10#28
与其感叹, 不如好好审视一下自己, 怎么连根玉米棒子都挖不到? ......如果你还真把人当成玉米棒子的话....

oyi : 2007-01-11#29
同情!

wind_sh : 2007-01-11#30
伤感是难免的,日子还要继续.......

MOLI518 : 2007-01-11#31
一切随缘吧!!!

yangyang2005 : 2007-01-17#32
:wdb10:
Let bygones be bygones!

yangyang2005 : 2007-01-17#33
relax

iamkerry : 2007-01-18#34
hey, Don, you got to let the past go and move on with your own life. Although it is always easier said than done, she has already found her happyness. it's your turn to get yours! Good luck, man!

lugordon : 2007-01-18#35
三天的情感纠葛都足以让人肝肠寸断,更别提楼主经年累月的爱情往事,同情你,理解你。然而,那句最普通的劝慰或许就是真理——过去的就让她过去吧!生意不成情意在。既然她有心告诉你她的婚期,在她的内心也许亦藏有戚戚然。欢笑着把你的祝福送给她,祝愿她永远幸福。然后,继续你的生活。

BTW,我听说在旧友嫁娶的日子,送去一套酒具是比较恰当的礼物,你的心意她会明白的。

签名:没有注意到是LZ两周前的旧帖,TIPS好像不适用了

:wdb9::wdb9::wdb9:

lugordon : 2007-01-19#36
楼主送你的歌,找不到视频贴个词先,你要不喜欢就删掉。。。

  你让他用戒指把你套上的时候
  我察觉到你脸上复杂的笑容
  那原本该是我付予你的承诺
  现在我只能隐身热闹中
  我跟着所有人向你祝贺的时候
  只有你知道我多喝了几杯酒 我不能再看你
  多一眼都是痛即使知道 暗地里你又回头
  我终于知道曲终人散的寂寞 只有伤心人才有
  你最后一身红残留在我眼中 我没有再依恋的藉口
  原来这就是曲终人散的寂寞 我还想等你什么
  你紧紧拉住我衣袖 又放开让我走
  这一次 跟我彻底分手

Don : 2007-01-20#37
hey guys up there, thank you all very much deeply from the bottom of my heart, every single word from you was so sweet and helps me a lot. I really appreciate what you did although we haven't met each other at all in reality, which means in some sort of saying actually we are strangers, that's why I am moved by you all.

哈哈哈,小蛋在心里抱着的不是“她”,是“他”----蛋自己的感觉而已:wdb21:
talented you! well, maybe when I look through this, the matter I haven't forgotten is the story and memory, not the 'she', in other word, nothing is gonna changed if she is another 'she', uuuuh, it doesn't sounds good though.

与其感叹, 不如好好审视一下自己, 怎么连根玉米棒子都挖不到? ......如果你还真把人当成玉米棒子的话....
yeah, review the past and move ahead, get things right.

同情!
thanks oyi.

伤感是难免的,日子还要继续.......
yup, I think I am getting out of this now, thank man.
:wdb10:
Let bygones be bygones!
yeah you're right.

hey, Don, you got to let the past go and move on with your own life. Although it is always easier said than done, she has already found her happyness. it's your turn to get yours! Good luck, man!
hi kerry, thanks a lot for your kindness.

三天的情感纠葛都足以让人肝肠寸断,更别提楼主经年累月的爱情往事,同情你,理解你。然而,那句最普通的劝慰或许就是真理――过去的就让她过去吧!生意不成情意在。既然她有心告诉你她的婚期,在她的内心也许亦藏有戚戚然。欢笑着把你的祝福送给她,祝愿她永远幸福。然后,继续你的生活。

BTW,我听说在旧友嫁娶的日子,送去一套酒具是比较恰当的礼物,你的心意她会明白的。

签名:没有注意到是LZ两周前的旧帖,TIPS好像不适用了

:wdb9::wdb9::wdb9:
you have been so kind, lugordon. it was a friend of us who told me the affair. I can still remember what she liked was - cup, which pronounces the same as 'a life long time' in chinese, so I can't give her that for sure.

楼主送你的歌,找不到视频贴个词先,你要不喜欢就删掉。。。

  你让他用戒指把你套上的时候
  我察觉到你脸上复杂的笑容
  那原本该是我付予你的承诺
  现在我只能隐身热闹中
  我跟着所有人向你祝贺的时候
  只有你知道我多喝了几杯酒 我不能再看你
  多一眼都是痛即使知道 暗地里你又回头
  我终于知道曲终人散的寂寞 只有伤心人才有
  你最后一身红残留在我眼中 我没有再依恋的藉口
  原来这就是曲终人散的寂寞 我还想等你什么
  你紧紧拉住我衣袖 又放开让我走
  这一次 跟我彻底分手
thank you very much, I like that song very much and is listening to it now.

the story has gone for sure, in her point of view of course, but those dreams just keep coming again and again. it's weird that I dreamed her mother was making a phone call to me and saying something that I have forgotten.

素衣suyi : 2007-01-20#38
一切随缘.......

千与千寻 : 2007-01-29#39
你要是还爱她的话,就去告诉她呀.把她抢回来嘛.
不过最好不要在教堂里人家正在交换结婚介子的时候.....哈,哈:wdb20:

yazuilong : 2007-01-29#40
以后去温哥华看看她。。。

Thumbelina : 2007-01-29#41
lz这个贴还挺火。 我有过和lz同样的感慨,其实没什么的,如果先出国的是你,先结婚的就是你啦。

不是你的,就不是你的,是你的一定跑不了。

如果Lz先去了USA,遇上一个更好的,ex结婚啦,就不是这种酸酸的滋味啦吧?

而且酸溜溜了将近一个月啦,酸的中文不用改E文,弄得我也没看完,不过感觉到那个酸味啦.

No offence.  :wdb13:

zznn123456 : 2007-01-29#42
NEXT IS BETTER

Don : 2007-02-02#43
你要是还爱她的话,就去告诉她呀.把她抢回来嘛.
不过最好不要在教堂里人家正在交换结婚介子的时候.....哈,哈:wdb20:
hahaha, I am not able to do that, it was too far from here.

以后去温哥华看看她。。。
don't know when I can get there yet, anyway, this is a good idea.

lz这个贴还挺火。 我有过和lz同样的感慨,其实没什么的,如果先出国的是你,先结婚的就是你啦。

不是你的,就不是你的,是你的一定跑不了。

如果Lz先去了USA,遇上一个更好的,ex结婚啦,就不是这种酸酸的滋味啦吧?

而且酸溜溜了将近一个月啦,酸的中文不用改E文,弄得我也没看完,不过感觉到那个酸味啦.

No offence.  :wdb13:
well, I am totally OK now, which I have to thank you all again for it. sorry to make you feel I am showing off so much.

luobo : 2007-02-02#44
男子汉大丈夫,拿得起放得下.

jjdab : 2007-02-05#45
每段感情背后都会有辛酸的故事,衷心祝福lz将来能拥有一段幸福的感情吧~~

不知多少人多少往事被lz的经历迁起来了……

crystal_clear : 2007-02-06#46
一本书上看来的.

"我们不要怕失恋,而要怕失足——一失足成千古恨。失恋是痛苦的,但失恋未必完全是坏事,它使人反省什么是真爱,什么是假爱,失恋可能是假爱尽早结束的表现,应当庆幸,而不需要太痛苦。但是人一旦失足掉入错误的婚姻中,无论如何均是不好的、痛苦的。因此,我们在婚前要做出谨慎、正确、勇敢的选择。"

Don : 2007-02-07#47
一本书上看来的.

"我们不要怕失恋,而要怕失足――一失足成千古恨。失恋是痛苦的,但失恋未必完全是坏事,它使人反省什么是真爱,什么是假爱,失恋可能是假爱尽早结束的表现,应当庆幸,而不需要太痛苦。但是人一旦失足掉入错误的婚姻中,无论如何均是不好的、痛苦的。因此,我们在婚前要做出谨慎、正确、勇敢的选择。"
partly I agree with the saying. anyway, thank you very much crystal.

for I have known, there are many likes, real, almost real, half real or something else, and there is only one real love out there, which every single person has different definition of it. but, is the love a person pay real? maybe it needs time to prove.